Sexual sin is not like any kind of sin. Typical sins and different from sexual sins because sexual immorality is sin against yourself and own body. And your body is the temple of the Lord, so once you temper with your body, you also temper with the temple of the Lord in you where the Holy Spirit is to dwell in. And if there’s anything in this life as Christians, is that we need the Holy Spirit to dwell in us and never leave us.
Sex is a spiritual thing and not just physical because the act ties souls and is meant for those who have vowed to be tied by marriage.
Society nowadays has created million excuses to normalise our actions and disregard the fact that as unwedded couples (to whom it may concern), to give yourself to a man whom you’re not married to, in the name of “this is the man I will marry or I see our relationship leading to potentially marriage”.
Sex is something that once started, you don’t want to quit. Because it feels good in the moment and you just can’t stop. Even when we pray that we want cleansing, to stop and not give in, we fall back again. Because it’s that one pleasure you want to grant to your selfish self.
But what about God’s will. What about your purpose and His will in your life?
Many at times, some people try to shame others for not being sexually active because at a certain age, you should no longer be a virgin. It’s a “pseudo” crime not to be a part. Society wants to shame those who save themselves and leave them as “not cool”, “lame”, “nerdy”. When the point is really about honouring your body.
Meanwhile the reverse should be the norm in accordance with the holy scriptures. Not judging anyone who is down that path however, I do believe that no one should be put to shame or made uncomfortable in any way because they have made that decision to hold on to their temple and honour their body and God.
With confidence and pride, do not feel ashamed that you have honoured God with your body. Never feel that you need to belong. Remember Psalm 84:10: Better is one day in your courts than a thousand elsewhere; I would rather be a doorkeeper in the house of my God than dwell in the tents of the wicked.
I picked this particular verse to talk to you who is feeling ashamed, you to on whom mockeries have been placed for apparently not belonging; think about who you serve, who you want to please, and where exactly you want to belong. Clearly not the world, clearly not those friends who make you feel ashamed. You do not have to. Just allow God to use you as a device to bless other people, to spread light and the truth.
Some people would say, well, that’s because she is not even in a relationship, and so, she can’t feel that temptation.
Well, my response to this is, you don’t have to be in a relationship to feel tempted. In thoughts, in your surrounding, anything can actually trigger you. You can even wake up from your sleep and be horny but does that mean you start giving yourself? So that point is invalid.Sexual sin is not any kind of sin. It’s a sin against your body and that’s even worst than any other sin.
And if you’re one of those who do not think or believe the bible adresses virginity or keeping yourself for marriage, then have a read through these verses.
Once more, this is in no way carrying judgement on anyone. This was simply to a way of giving my view points as I have been having a lot of conversations recently around relationships, marriage, sex and how these different things are addressed in the WORD.
That said, I am in no way perfect. Be active and that’s your decision but do not (try to) label someone and say “he/she is missing out or shame your friends” because xyz… All I know is that the WORD is the truth and we all know this truth.
For those of you whose arguments are: “Ahhh, even God knows the flesh is weak” or “we are all humans” or “shit happens you know” …
Indeed, shit happens! However, I strongly believe that no one wants to stay in “shitty” situations. In fact, I do believe that situations we just classify as “well, shit happens, or that the flesh is weak” are cycles the devil wants to keep you in and until you decide to stop listening to these lies of enemy, until you make a firm decision of getting out of these cycles, then you kind of remain trapped in there.
God says come to me and ask for forgiveness for when the Lord has said it’s over, He moves on and never brings your past life, He makes you a new person in Him again. Do not let guilt or shame distance you from his presence. Just come to him and He’ll give you peace.
Meditate these verses.
“Do not deny yourselves to each other, unless you first agree to do so for a while in order to spend your time in prayer; but then resume normal marital relations. In this way you will be kept from giving in to Satan’s temptation because of your lack of self-control.”
1 Corinthians 7:5 GNB
“Someone else will say, “Food is for the stomach, and the stomach is for food.” Yes; but God will put an end to both. The body is not to be used for sexual immorality, but to serve the Lord; and the Lord provides for the body.”
1 Corinthians 6:13 GNB
“But because there is so much immorality, every man should have his own wife, and every woman should have her own husband.”
1 Corinthians 7:2 GNB
“That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united with his wife, and they become one.”
Genesis 2:24 GNB
“Each of you men should know how to live with his wife in a holy and honourable way,”
1 Thessalonians 4:4 GNB
“You may be sure that no one who is immoral, indecent, or greedy (for greed is a form of idolatry) will ever receive a share in the Kingdom of Christ and of God.”
Ephesians 5:5 GNB
“Avoid immorality. Any other sin a man commits does not affect his body; but the man who is guilty of sexual immorality sins against his own body. Don’t you know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and who was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourselves but to God; he bought you for a price. So use your bodies for God’s glory.”
1 Corinthians 6:18-20 GNB
“Avoid immorality. Any other sin a man commits does not affect his body; but the man who is guilty of sexual immorality sins against his own body.”
1 Corinthians 6:18 GNB
“What human nature does is quite plain. It shows itself in immoral, filthy, and indecent actions;”
Galatians 5:19 GNB
“‘And for this reason a man will leave his father and mother and unite with his wife, and the two will become one.’ So they are no longer two, but one. No human being then must separate what God has joined together.””
Mark 10:7-9 GNB
“Each of you men should know how to live with his wife in a holy and honourable way, not with a lustful desire, like the heathen who do not know God. In this matter, then, no man should do wrong to his fellow-Christian or take advantage of him. We have told you this before, and we strongly warned you that the Lord will punish those who do that. God did not call us to live in immorality, but in holiness.”
1 Thessalonians 4:4-7 GNB
“He reflects the brightness of God’s glory and is the exact likeness of God’s own being, sustaining the universe with his powerful word. After achieving forgiveness for human sins, he sat down in heaven at the right-hand side of God, the Supreme Power. The Son was made greater than the angels, just as the name that God gave him is greater than theirs.”
Hebrews 1:3-4 GNB
“But the things that come out of the mouth come from the heart, and these are the things that make a person ritually unclean. For from his heart come the evil ideas which lead him to kill, commit adultery, and do other immoral things; to rob, lie, and slander others. These are the things that make a person unclean. But to eat without washing your hands as they say you should — this doesn’t make a person unclean.”
Matthew 15:18-20 GNB
This is the WORD of the Lord !!!! You choose what you do but do not interfere or speak about another’s choice or way of life. Hold yourself accountable for your own actions.
Thanks for reading!