The hard part about the life we live is that we’re taught to do it all “on our own” and to “mind our own business.” We’re “looking out for number one” and “taking care of our own.” While there’s some wisdom within each of those phrases, there’s also a troubling reality.

We aren’t perfect. We can’t see all the angles or do everything ourselves.


God built us to need each other (Genesis 2:18).

We need other people for companionship, to form relationships, and to also grow in our patience and love for each other.

One Thing Remains

The other beautiful thing about having people in our lives is that they can help us understand things we don’t understand. The perspectives and experiences of other people can give us wisdom into different life situations that we haven’t encountered before.

Proverbs says, “Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed.” (Proverbs 15:22)

The point is that the more input and wisdom you have into a decision, the more likely it is to succeed. This is because mentors and guides can help us see things we would have missed if it were only up to us.

Consider finding some “life advisers” today.

Choose people who are:

  1. People of faith – people who believe that the chase for Godly wisdom is a good idea and are on that chase themselves.
  2. People of prayer – you want advisers who are committed to engaging with God and learning through a conversational relationship with Him.
  3. People who know you – strangers make difficult advisers because wisdom has to make sense in real life. Find advisers who understand your situation and personality, as well as the decision you’re trying to make.

Look for that person, those people and stick with them.

Stay blessed xx

19’s Observation


When the picture of a more abundant life gets a little clouded by what others want me to believe it is, serving God and speaking His Word clarifies for me a life that’s truly worth living.
In my long journey searching for the Lord’s face, I met with people I genuinely admire, respect and value. They accompany me in my spiritual journey and together as one, we try to be there for each other. Through this journey searching and seeking the Lord’s face, I am constantly re-energized and renewed in commitment to serve him with a deeper understanding of his will each and every single day.


Fellowship, breaking of bread, sharing and prayers just strengthens me.  I fill complete in him. He’s my confident, the pillar on which i stand. The teachings of his word are amazing. They are life stimulating and engaging with much practical learning. So much of what is taught and what we learn from the bible have been made and are still made applicable now in each and everyone’s situation. The patterns, sisterhood, having godly vision, getting outside of our comfort zones, and having the power to make changes. All of this bring greater quality of life as we, in turn, lovingly share God’s Word with others.

However, I don’t know if that’s just me but upon all these marvels I know I find in him, I still do not have a perfect relationship with him. We have our up and down moments. It’s hard you know to have a balanced relationship with him especially when you go through continuous hardships.  There’s this particular time when i paused God in my life because i was wondering why he would allow certain things to happen to me without helping me out.I lamented myself, cried, shouted but no change. It was even hard to talk to someone about this because I felt judged.But one day, i got this statement that with God, I needed to trust the process, keep my determination and remain patient. I was greatly motivated by my own brothers’ story and he gave me this verse which i kept and is still holding onto till today.

Habacuc 2:3 it goes…

I will watchover and wait to see what the Lord will tell me to say and what answer he will give after my complaint. The Lord gave me this answer: “Write down clearly on tablets what i reveal to you, so that it can be read at a glance. Put it in writing because its not yet time for it to come true. But the time is coming quickly and it will come true. It may seem slow in coming but wait for it; it will certainly take place and will not be delayed. And this is the message: Those who are evil will not survive, but those who are rightheous will live because they are faithful to God”. 

Whether you have noticed it or not, we have all being transformed in one aspect or the other. From negative, sad and fear-filled to positive, joyous and assured. It’s not for no reason they usually say “stand together for what you believe”.

Never depart from the word of life. Although we have our moments of crises, let’s not forget the purpose, the final destination and the reward which will be glorious and mighty.

19’s observation.